Paying for a Cow When the Milk is Free

https://pjmedia.com/lifestyle/2014/3/29/the-best-kept-sexual-secret-on-a-hook-up-campus/?singlepage=true

Obviously my headline is sarcastic. I do not believe that women have sex just for sex's sake. Maybe partly but mostly I think women are looking for a relationship. Frankly there are very few men who can give a woman a thrill on their first encounter.

Guys, you need to get control of your "feel good now" demand and gals you need to look for commitment from someone who has control of his "feel good now" impulse.

To the bridegrooms on the eve of their marriage

Young men:

I have some thoughts for you on the beginning of your marriage. You have found a young woman you love and you are about to be married. Up to now, you have had a lot of fun together and perhaps you have even had some difficulties as you hashed out issues of money, housing and family. Hopefully these issues are settled. You know each others debts, you know a lot about each others likes and dislikes, you have had some tender talks about family and future. Perhaps you have even discussed the intimate relationship that you are about to experience.

I expect that you don't know much and I also hope that you recognize that what you do know is irrelevant.

Until you are in an intimate relationship, you don't know anything about an intimate relationship.

To chaste and virtuous brides

I address this to virtuous young women near the beginning of marriage. I hope that you and your intended have had a happy courtship. By now you should know quite a bit about him. You may not yet have discussed some of your intimate expectations. What follows may be the basis for some of the discussion.

Recognizing Truth

Pornography is an utter lie. I am convinced that if people recognized the lie they would be appalled and they would turn away from it. But I am also convinced that we don't start by showing them the lie and trying to describe the lie in it.

Modesty 3

This picture is timely:

We do teach men to behave themselves. A real man would not behave in an unseemly way toward a woman who was entirely naked. But should women then feel free to run about naked? 

Hypothetically, as long as all the men around were real men then she should be safe. 

Breaking in to houses to steal things is never the fault of the householder even if he leaves the door unlocked. But we know that there are thieves in the world so we lock our doors. 

A Digital Lecture

To young married couples.

Thank you for being virtually here tonight and allowing me to address a few topics related to marriage. Tonight we will speak about intimacy and particularly differences in level of desire. We will propose some responsibilities and obligations that each spouse can undertake to reconcile their desires.

Modesty 2

I posted previously on modesty and have been reflecting further on that post.

The first knowledge of Adam and Eve (and allegorically our first knowledge) is nakedness. Nakedness is vulnerability. It is awareness of mortality and the threats to the body. It is even an awareness that the body may not be fully under our control. 

Certainly a child learns about his body when he first starts to recognize it and control it. 

What was Adam and Eve's response?

Natural Family Planning: A Thought

I have a few thoughts on natural family planning (NFP) and a few questions. Remember that I don't have any particular objection to artificial contraception. But I tend to think that there is a conceit in NFP. If someone thought that conception was a key purpose of the marital embrace then it seems to me that they would limit their intimate relations to the days that they were most likely to conceive. 

Let's make a hypothetical: If the conditions of ovulation, insemination and conception could be known with utter certainty based on feasible and simple physical measurements would restraint from sexual relations during that period of time be a virtue? What if the timing could be specified down to one day per month? How much self control would that take?