Hugh B. Brown, an LDS apostle and member of the First Presidency of the church was the author of the book You and Your Marriage that called for better sex education.
Here is a link to a relevant portion: There is a Great Need for Sex Education
The last sentence of this excerpt gives some enigmatic instructions especially so for those of us in the modern world:
"The young man who practices self-control, especially during the honeymoon, will reap rich rewards in after years. He will win the deep and abiding respect of his wife, which is indispensable to lasting love and will establish a beautiful relationship for all the years to come."
What does he mean when he says self control. The cynical would say that he means that a young man should have ejaculatory control so he can satisfy his wife. I think that what he really means is that a young groom must not be obsessed with his lusts. His new bride is not a sex toy.
This instruction is good for an entire marriage.
More from the link:
ReplyDeleteBut fundamentally, in addition to all that can be learned from others, he must teach himself moderation, self-control, and tender consideration.
One of the cornerstones of a happy married life, so often disregarded by parents as they train their children for future wedlock, is the necessity for harmonious sexual activities between the parties thereto. Each couple should, with reverence, intelligence, and consideration, build solidly and skillfully on this stone in the foundation of the temple of the home....
Ignorance and blundering on the part of newlyweds account in large measure for the fact that one out of three marriages end in divorce. Our young people should avoid the various vulgar approaches to this essentially delicate, beautiful, and Godlike capacity.
We want our young people to know that sex is not an unmentionable human misfortune, and certainly it should not be regarded as a sordid but necessary part of marriage. There is no excuse for approaching this most intimate relationship in life without true knowledge of its meaning and its high purpose. This is an urge which more insistently than others calls for self-control and intelligence.