The typical motivation for sexual intimacy is the pleasure of an orgasm. This pleasure is experienced individually by the partners in the act. I contend that it is impossible for a man to feel his wife’s orgasm and likewise for a woman to feel her husband’s. Oh yes, either may feel some contractions and certainly will see some evidence of it in the face, posture, breathing, and vocalizations of his or her partner but neither feels the other’s pleasure. Neither experiences the endorphin rush or any of the bodily changes up to and include the release of tension that has been built up in the other's body.
